“The behaviour you walk past is the standard you accept”
– Lieutenant General David Morrison
We all like to be liked. We’re human after all and the need to be liked is a childhood need that chases us into adulthood. We like to think and feel that we are accepted and that we belong. It’s totally normal and understandable but what we must be aware of is how much we will suffer if this need consumes us – especially as leaders.
The need to be liked is something many leaders struggle with, especially those who are innately people pleasers, those new to leadership and those leading previous peers. It’s a challenge to make decisions that you know will be unpopular and dealing with the inevitable ripple effect that will follow. However, this is leadership and it’s...
“To make flexibility work, it is not only necessary to change our attitude about who is a good worker and who is not, but we have to train managers at all levels to recognize the difference between the number of hours worked and the quality of work produced.”
Madeleine M Kunin
Smart leaders will know that strong talent is the key to success for any organisation. You can have the best strategy, infrastructure, policies and processes in place but without good people it means nothing. What people value today is very different to that of twenty years ago. However, is what leaders see and value as important today different to that of twenty years ago when it comes to how their people work?
As our talent pool is changing dramatically it’s important for a leaders...
Happy New Financial Year! The first half of the calendar year is complete. Yes, 180 days done! Winter solstice is past us now and before we know it we’ll be heading into spring (please hurry, it’s so cold in Melbourne!). Time seems to fly by so fast which is why it’s so critical in today’s business environment to stay focused and have clarity on what you’re aiming to achieve and why it’s important. Otherwise you can get swept away with the seemingly rapid pace of time and wonder what you have achieved rather than being in control of what you are doing.
At this critical point in the year, it’s a great time to be assessing if the plans and actions you have been executing to date are the right ones to get you to where you want to go. It helps to check in with...
Leadership is often focused outward. You’re focused on the business strategy, the operations, the day to day, the culture, your clients, your service offerings, performance and of course your team. It can feel like you’re constantly giving to, thinking for and encouraging others leaving little time for you. Unconsciously you can become quite neglected because you’re always there for others and whilst this isn’t the intent your leadership and your mental health can be negatively impacted
Leaders often comment and a lot is written about how challenging, isolating and lonely leadership can be even if you have a team of people around you. You’re responsible for making decisions, sometimes unpopular ones, you’re often expected to have the answers, people want to...
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Here’s a challenge, find someone today who is not busy.
ticking off our to-do lists, trying to run a business or manage our career. We’re busy
hopping from meeting to meeting, trying to manage our team. We’re busy
meeting client expectations, ensuring cash flow and results are where they need to be. We’re busy
dealing with the hundreds of emails that land in our inbox each day. We’re busy
juggling our family. We’re busy
trying to maintain the relationships with our significant other. We’re busy
trying to keep fit. It’s relentless.
And it’s become really bland and boring.
Here’s a cold hard dose of reality; you’re not busier than anyone else even if you think you’re doing more hours, doing better work or struggling to juggling a family more than...
“I’m sick of being a technology orphan” said a nine year old girl to her parents.
After delivering a Busy? keynote recently, a lady approached me to let me know the point I had made about how busy is impacting our children really resonated with her. Her daughter had said the comment above and it her hit and her husband between the eyes. She didn’t quite realise how much her busyness has affected her daughter until then and now she is in the process of trying to break some very ingrained bad habits. This is a true story and a heartbreaking one.
Busy is what we are and its heavy impact is felt well beyond you and your workplace. It extends into your home and those closest to you. We are constantly telling people how busy we are. That we haven’t met a commitment...
“Action expresses priorities”
There’s a key point I make in my ‘Busy? What are you busy doing?’
workshops that really encourages people stop and think about the real meaning of their language when we tell others we’re ‘too busy’ to return a call, respond to an email, send them information, show up to a meeting on time or catch up with them. What we are really saying is they are not a priority. Harsh but true. Because it’s a simple fact – you will do what you prioritise. So it’s what you are prioritising that is the biggest issue.
In our world of constant distraction there’s so much to take our attention. Pings, dings and vibrations constantly take our focus away from what is really important. That may be from loved ones, important work or...
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”
~ Brian Tracy
Have you ever worked with someone who was his or her own downfall? They have so many amazing qualities that are unfortunately clouded by moments of complete madness - lack of self-awareness, unrestraint and indulging in negative emotions. They are unanchored in their leadership and others suffer because of it.
Tim was a solid and experienced leader. He was in a General Manager role leading a very large business and had twenty people leaders reporting to him. Tim was driven, competitive, dynamic and gave people a chance. He...
This is one of the most common questions I am asked by leaders and by participants in my workshops when I encourage them to stop the ‘busy’ language. There is a genuine look of fear and confusion on their faces. How would I respond or what on earth will I say if I can’t say I’m busy and won’t people think there’s something wrong if I’m not busy?
The language of busy has become so ingrained in our culture. We think we just have to be busy. We think busy, we speak busy and we believe we’re busy. It’s become an instinctive response to the question of how are you or how are things and in my opinion it’s very lazy language. It’s nondescript, beige and rather boring. Everyone
is busy so how are you going to stand out and get known for what you do if all you are is...